Allow yourself to have emotions because there is little benefit in pretending you don’t feel sad, guilty, relieved, apprehensive, worried, etc. Discuss your feelings with your source of support which could include your family, other parents, and friends. As parents, “overall wellness” should be your goal. During stressful times we may forget to eat, our sleep schedule can be interrupted, or we are just tired. In order to be helpful to your child, eat regular healthy meals, get quality rest/sleep, and exercise if possible. This should give you the energy needed to be helpful.
You can also find new outlets for yourself by taking on new challenges and responsibilities. This gives a way to channel and/or manage the new feelings and energy that may be associated with your child attending college. Keep in mind, now is the time for you to cross things off that “to-do” list you have been adding to for the past 18 years or so. Patience with your child is important at this time also because It may take awhile for them to develop the right balance between their need to be independent from you but feel supported and guided by you. Understand that it may take some time to figure it all out.